People speak so many words each day. There are people whose words are just filling space, giving lip service. And there are people whose words and actions are so genuine, with such meaning and promise behind them. Did those people learn this as children? Were they born with a gene that makes them genuine and honest with integrity?
As a teacher and mother, I think it Is important to help children understand the importance of speaking honest, kind words and following them up with action that matches the words.
Today I helped two students work through a disagreement. One was being picked on by the other and had tried to be patient, kind, yet firm when letting his friend know it wasn’t okay. The other didn’t want to listen, failed to see the frustration in the other child’s face. He continued to poke the child’s frustration. When I intervened, his reaction was to be defensive, not apologetic. His words said, “I’m sorry.” But his actions said, “I’m mad that I got in trouble for bothering you.”
I know grown ups who have the same traits. They are the grown ups that I don’t really trust, the ones whose words have little value. Tonight as I get ready to fall asleep, I’m still trying to understand and ponder what motivates both sides?
Im not sure what the motivation is or where it comes from, but I’m going to keep teaching and modeling it because I am content when I can trust a persons words because their actions match. I’m holding out for the good in the world to win!